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Support and Acceptance for the Gay and Lesbian Community

Americans Nearly Evenly Split on Gay Marriage

September 15th, 2011 by Admin

Support for legal recognition of same-sex marriage has shifted in recent years, from a narrow majority opposed in 2009 to narrow majority support now. Some of the shift stems from a generational divide, with the new poll showing a majority of Americans under age 65 in favor of legal recognition for same-sex marriages, and a majority of seniors opposed.

It’s complicated, this question of legitimizing gay marriage. And Americans are grappling with the question. A new poll that shows that the nation is narrowly split on same-sex marriage.

Fifty-three percent of the 1,000 adults surveyed believe the government should give legal recognition to marriages between couples of the same sex, about the same as last year, according to the nationwide telephone poll by The Associated Press and the National Constitution Center. Forty-four percent were opposed.































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Changing Christian Attitudes on Changing Gays

July 28th, 2011 by Admin

There’s an interesting new trend in the evangelical Christian community. For many years many evangelical Christian organizations have pressured their gay members into reparative (or conversion) therapy.   But as of late that’s been changing.  

As more of the science suggests that homosexuality may be innate, support for treatments that entail changing someone’s sexual orientation are moving out of fashion. According to an article in the Orlando Sentinel by Dan Gilgoff, of CNN, even the head of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary recently said, “We have spoken carelessly and unknowledgeably in the past to just say: ‘Just change.  Just decide right now your pattern of attraction is not homosexuality but heterosexuality’…it’s not just a matter of choice.  It’s not something that’s turned on or turned off.”

Even Exodus International, a strong proponent of reparative therapy in the past has de-emphasized reparative therapy as more of the counselors in its network have abandoned the practice. 

Another very likely reason for these changes in attitudes is recent polls showing that young evangelicals are more supportive of rights for gay people than their parents.  And keeping young people in their flanks is crucial. 

The bottom line is reparative therapy does not work and most often causes harm.  “You can’t change a bird into a fish.  You can teach a bird to swim but eventually it will fly.  That’s what birds do.”  


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It Gets Better

December 23rd, 2010 by Admin

It’s the end of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell–the biggest civil rights victory in years!   This Watershed moment is an example of a changing America, an America living up to our highest ideals of equality and fairness. But a changing America will give rise to some people’s fears and fears are often met with prejudice.But it will get better! Click on this link to listen to President Obama and gay White House Staff members:

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Gay Days

June 17th, 2010 by Admin

There were about 150,000 GLBT people at Gay Days in Orlando, one of the largest gay-pride events in the world.   They came from all over the country, and the world to celebrate their pride in being who they are.   It was amazing to see such a diverse community of GLBT people, lots in red shirts, many with their families feeling free to be OUT in the world, in this case Disney World.

A friend of mine has a son who was working at Disney during Gay Days.  “Mom, they’re just regular people,” he said.  

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Are You Still in the Closet?

June 12th, 2010 by Admin

Coming out to oneself can be a confusing and difficult process with several hurdles to cross.  First, there’s making the discovery that you are gay.  Then, there’s coming to terms with your same-sex feelings.  Next, it’s wondering, am I the only one with such feelings? It’s challenging for sure.  Society may be more accepting of gay people than ever before, but there is still a stigma attached to same-sex attraction, and of course, the biggest obstacle for most people is the fear that their families won’t be accepting.   That happens, but people can change.  A favorite quote from Carol Lynn Pearson:  When dogma collides with reality, when the people involved are those you love, you see with different eyes. Even unaccepting parents can begin to see things differently with time.    

 If you are at the point in your process that you are ready to come out, there are lots of books that can help you and your parents.  Also, for support check out to find a chapter near you.    

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Gallop Poll Shows Support for Gay Relationships

May 26th, 2010 by Admin

 According to a new Gallop poll, the majority of Americans now support gay relationships.  We may still have a way to go, but we are certainly headed in the right direction.  And it appears we have finally reached the tipping point in gay acceptance.

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Good Quotes

May 15th, 2010 by Admin

Here are two good quotes for the week:

This from Betty White, an American Treasure

As someone who’s been proudly advocating for equal rights and supporting GLBT causes for as long as I can remember, I know how much it means to young people struggling with their sexuality to see out and proud actors succeeding in their work without having to keep their sexuality a secret.

And this from U.S. Senator Barbara Boxer

In the greatest of all democracies, it hurts my heart that in the year 2010, we would still treat some members of our society as 2nd class citizens, and use them to score political points or gain votes or power.

Thanks to these powerful women for speaking out against homophobia.   

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“Expert” Witness in Adoption Case Caught with Male Prostitute

May 5th, 2010 by Admin

According to the Miami New Times, George Rekers was hired by Florida Attorney General Bill McCollum as an “expert” witness to defend Florida’s anti-gay adoption ban.  McCollum’s so called “expert” witness was recently caught with a male prostitute at the Miami airport.   

From Steve Rothaus’ Miami Herald Blog:  “Rekers and a colleague were paid $87,000 by McCollum for testimony that called gay people mentally unstable and advised that the ban should be expanded to include Native Americans because, Rekers claimed, they are also at much higher risk of mental illness and substance abuse…”

Is there any scientific support for such claims?  NO.  What a waste of tax payer’s money. 

This is  another link in the chain of prominent anti-gay activists being caught doing the very thing they deem immoral. Hypocrites, all. The harm these people do is not only contemptible, it’s downright Orwellian.


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Straight for Equality

April 1st, 2010 by Admin

From PFLAG Guide to Being a Straight Ally

“I always wanted to be one of those people who would make things change for my gay friends – I just wasn’t sure how or where to do it.”

Sound familiar?

Chances are it does. Across the country, thousands of straight individuals who don’t necessarily have a family member who is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender (GLBT) are seeing big changes in the way that their GLBT friends and colleagues are treated. If you or someone you know is straight and wants to help the gay community, join in the fight for equality, or just learn more about these issues, you’ve come to the right place. Anyone interested in any of these topics is an ally! Allies, you’ve come to the right place. Straight for Equality is the answer for you.

Straight for Equality is a national outreach and education project created by PFLAG National to empower allies in supporting and advocating for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people by:

Inviting allies to speak up

Educating allies

Engaging allies in the pursuit of equality


   We’re not talking about major political protests (although that’s certainly an option) but the tiny everyday changes – like not omitting the fact that your best friend is gay when you’re telling grandma about him – can raise awareness and challenge assumptions and stereotypes. Maybe it means objecting when someone at the office tells that really over-the-top gay joke…again. Or perhaps it is about paying attention to how a candidate stands on equality issues and making your opinion heard with your vote.


Basically, if there’s a place where you can talk to someone else, there’s an opportunity for you to put some of the things you can learn from Straight for Equality into action.

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It’s Elementary

March 24th, 2010 by Admin

For anyone working with kids—here is a great resource.  It’s Elementary.  This amazing documentary film should be mandatory for teachers to watch.  Children have questions.  This film gives adults ways to talk with kids about prejudice toward gays.  I saw it years ago and loved it.

It’s Elementary takes cameras into classrooms across the U.S. to look at one of today’s most controversial topics – whether and how gay issues should be discussed in schools. No political debate here.  The film takes the point of view of the school children. At its heart are inspiring scenes in which elementary and middle school teachers find creative ways to confront anti-gay prejudice.

It’s Elementary is the first film of its kind to address anti-gay prejudice by providing adults with practical lessons on how to talk with kids about gay people. Hailed as “a model of intelligent directing,” It’s Elementary shows that children are eager and able to wrestle with stereotypes and absorb new facts about what it means to be gay or lesbian.

Since it aired on more than 100 public television stations in 1999, It’s Elementary has fueled a growing movement of educators and parents — gay and straight alike — who are committed to preventing pervasive homophobia and anti-gay violence. The film shows what happens when kids in kindergarten through eighth grade discuss lesbian- and gay-related topics in age-appropriate ways. It’s Elementary models excellent teaching about family diversity, name-calling, stereotypes, and community building.

It’s Elementary has won numerous awards, has been acquired by nearly 3,000 educational institutions, and has received widespread acclaim from educators, policymakers, parents and religious leaders.  Check it out!

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